Music 2 my ears

I met someone about 8 years ago. He is all I have ever wanted and more. We met at work. I don't work there any longer and he does. We can call him W. We were teasing each other one day and like a woman, I played like I was mad at him. I let people know that I was going out for lunch. I left the office and walked into the elevator. A second later, he throws open the double doors of the office, races over and holds open the elevator, and apologizes. He wouldn't let the doors go till I forgave him and it was over something soo stupid that I had forgotten 10 seconds after. I smiled through lunch and days later. We got soo close in a few months that I thought that this was it. He is older that I am, but it doesn't bother me.
I found out that he was married after about 3 months. I almost died. I swore him off. I left the co. after about a year. We were still friends. A friend of mine worked there and the day I left, my friend had given my pager and phone # to W because he had asked for it. He called and invited me out under the grounds that we go with other friends from the co. I went. He was a practical joker so I had sensed that something was up and brought a friends just in case. My friend and I had arrived at this place that I had never been to before and we looked around and stayed for about 20 mins. W was in another room and had left that part out when he invited me. So we didn't get to say good-by...That day. He didn't give up and on the inside, neither did I.
We finally got together and remained friends up to now. Over the years he has told me about his wife and family. His kids are grown, he and his wife have not spoken or had any kind of a relationship at all for a very long time. He wants her to go and she won't. Yet she has seen other people, and has more problems than you can count.
My problem is, W and I have run up phone bills, we have been out and I have never been so happy in my life. I have dreamed about this man. He is kind, funny, handsome, and smart. We have spoken more in a month than he and his wife have in a year. He has recently told me that he is very depressed about his life. He does not want to hurt his children. He cared for them more than she has. When she refused to raise them he taught them, cared for them, worried for them, and gave them the world. If they have any worries they call him and not her. I have never seen kids love their father as much as these kids do.
I don't want to ruin this for them or him. I am staying out of the way, but I can't help thinking about him. When I wake up he is on my mind, when I am at work, in the car, watching tv, doing the dishes, 25 hours a day this man has touched my heart in a way that I can not stop now. I will not do anything to jeopardies his situation. Someone please tell me how to get through this when all I really want is for him to be happy. I want to make him happy. I don't want him to feel like he has no life. I want to tell him that I love him and I want him to really hear me. I have told him before, but that was just an in the moment thing. W has told me that he loves me and I think that it was also an in the moment thing.
My friends all have told me that it just won't work and I should know better. But they aren't there when we are together or just talking on the phone. I gave it my best shot once. I didn't accept or make calls to him for 6 months. I had never been soo depressed or on the verge of killing myself in my life. It was like a part of me died. W had paged me and left a message that I had to answer back. It was a song. After 6 months, of paging me and calling me with no return calls, he had given me a sign that this was it. He had reached a point where it was come back or walk away forever.
I called him back.
He calls more now then he ever has. Am I crazy? 8 years... I know that he loves me. We don't need approval from other people, we don't need to see each other every day, we don't even need to say the words I love you. But am I crazy? I know what I am doing is wrong, and I hate myself for letting my heart do this to me. But if I didn't, there would be nothing to live for. I would sell my should a thousand times for him. I would do anything, go anywhere, just to know that I can still hear his voice everyday. I have felt that way and no different from the time that we met till now. I think I am really stuck.

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